Hello, good-bi.

Does bisexuality exist? It depends on who you ask, I suppose.

I don't know anyone who has claimed to be bisexual that did not later turn towards one specific gender or the other. In my experience, bisexuality is a pitstop on the way to Gaytown. But others might disagree -- particularly those who identify as bisexual.

An acquaintance of mine, one who would make a blind and deaf person say "goddamn, that kid is gay", has recently been spending an awful lot of time becoming chummy with a girl. "Oh, that's just his queer dead," we all thought. But at a party last weekend, said girl referred to him as her boyfriend, and not in a platonic way. In a "we are having sex" kind of way.

Say whaaaaat?

He has gone on the record as saying that he simply "doesn't see gender," which is a load of bullshit. There's no choice but to see gender. But is it possible for a gay man to compromise his sexuality in the face of loneliness? We do live in a small town in south Texas, so maybe he is just seeking any companionship in any sense. Some very famous gay men have been married and loved women while seeking out dalliances with men -- Cole Porter, Oscar Wilde, Moss Hart, Vita Sackville-West, to name a few. Most of these people lived during times when homosexuality was severely persecuted.

So does bisexuality exist? Is it possible to be equally attracted to both genders, or does everyone truly have a preference but will settle for society's norms or whatever is available? The world may never know. And if it makes the people happy, it's none of the world's business.